Dear Parents,
How amazing it is that we are now in the month of November. As I write this entry, it is breezy and cool outside and leaves are falling. This is such a great time of year!
Last year, I shared a section from a book that I was reading, that I would like to share again. Since we are quickly approaching our Thanksgiving and Winter Break it would be appropriate to share this at this time. The name of the book is: “Positive Words, Powerful Results” written by Hal Urban. Mr. Urban suggests throughout his book that by speaking kind words, powerful result happen. My parents taught me this a very long time ago, and it truly works!
Read below what Mr. Urban states in Chapter 11 entitled Affectionate Words Build Strong Families.
Strong families emphasize that good communication doesn’t necessarily happen; it usually takes time and practice. There are ten ways that words can enrich family life:
1. Model the language you want your children to use – One thing parents need to be aware of is that they’re teaching their children something every time they open their mouths.
2. Read to your children
a. It bonds the child and the parent both physically and emotionally.
b. It introduces the child to great literature and powerful stories with a moral message.
c. It fosters a love of reading in the child.
d. It leads to success in school
3. Have meaningful conversation – Parents need to make face-to-face meaningful conversation a high priority.
4. Ask good questions
5. Celebrate the day at the dinner table – Don’t ask “did you learn anything today?” rather ask “What was the best thing that happened to you today?” With this question you get better results and you will probably find out what was learned.
6. Catch your children doing something right.
7. Correct gently
a. Literally count to ten to give yourself time to think about what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it.
b. Keep your voice at a normal volume.
c. Reassure the child. Example: “Jennifer, we love you very much, but what you did is wrong and we need to talk about it.”
d. Focus on the wrongdoing, not the person who did it.
e. Forgive the child.
8. Use and teach the magic words – For hundreds of years the magic words “please” and “thank you,” along with a number of other terms of courtesy, were taught and modeled in virtually every home. This began to change in the mid 1960’s for a variety of reasons. While good manners are still stressed by many parents, it can no longer be assumed that most children are learning them in the home.
9. Write a family mission statement about words in the home – A brief declaration of purpose that helps keep its members focused and reminds them of their responsibilities.
10. Schedule a family night – There are only four rules regarding family night,
a. It would be at the same time and same day each week.
b. It would be held even if a family member was absent.
c. It would be a minimum of one hour in length.
d. The activity had to include conversation.